Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.
Why you should stop yelling
Yelling at kids doesn’t work.
It’s kind of like living next to train tracks or under the flight path of an airport. After a while you don’t hear the noise.
When kids are yelled at, it doesn’t work. What results is:
1. they stop hearing you unless you get louder and louder.
2. they get angry.
3. they get sad.
4. they get depressed.
5. they don’t change.
Name calling, cursing, screaming … doesn’t work.
Read: Ugly Chinese-American with a twisted ending
What should mommies and daddies do?
Talk to me before you get so mad that you want to scream. I really don’t want to make you angry.
If you are tired, take turns talking to me. Even I can see that sometimes daddy is more tired than mommy or the other way around.
Tell me why I should do something the right way BEFORE I have ever considered doing it the wrong way.
If I move slow and I am late for school, then I know I will get a tardy slip. AND, I won’t have time to watch an episode of Strawberry Shortcake or Littlest Pet Shop or …
Just remind me of why I should do something, don’t yell at me for why I didn’t do something or am doing something that is going to give me a bad result.
Please don’t yell at me. It doesn’t work.
