Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.

Mentor dads who love to share advice

These dads love talking and giving advice to their friends to make them knowledgeable of the various pitfalls of parenting.  They keep giving advice to their friends and in lot of cases valuable advice of course but in lot of cases they can be quite annoying as well.  They want to be socially responsible and place a lot of emphasis on discipline and want to mentor others such as themselves going through the difficult phase of parenting. They are often seen in community meet ups, workshops and sharing advice as they feel a geniune sense of belonging to the community and are wanting to give back to life for whatever life has taught them.  They are often inquisitive and probe into details of others in order for them to better understand their friends needs and aspirations for them to provide a solution that is consistent with their friends family goals.

Some of them keep boring their friends with their experiences to the point where they are found to be annoying and meddling in the internal affairs of their family members.  They also keep giving advice to the kids of their friends in many cases and kids usually are found to be running at the sight of these dads.  The kids are young and lot of advice looks like it is more noise than substance in their minds and caution has to be exercised in how much has to be told to them at any point.  Mentor dads need to understand this fine balance and how to apply caution to what boundaries they are willing to push in order to get their message across.  They also must understand that experience is a great mentor and the truth cannot be just told. People have to experience it themselves many a times for them to truly understand and improve, so too much advice can sometimes be annoying.

Talk to Bill and others about their experiences raising bi-cultural Japanese-American kids.