Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.
My father has 4 brothers and sisters, he comes from a very typical Taiwanese family that parents focused on children education and moral behavior. My grand parents was born when Taiwan was still the colony of Japan so they have both the characteristics of Taiwan and Japan which is very conservative and strict. Under my grandparents education, my dad is fairly conservative compare with my friends’s dad who wants me to be a polite, diligent and hard working person. Although compare with my friends in same age, I didn’t have too much freedom to manage my personal life which actually made me really upset when couldn’t hangout with my friends but when I grow up, I found myself very lucky to have a father like him. Here I want to share my point of view for being a good dad.
- Ａ good father should take himself as a good example in front of child
My father doesn’t have any bad habit, he doesn’t smoke, drink alcohol…etc. Also he treats my grandparents very well, he prepares dinner for my grandparents every day and takes care of them with his first priority which gives me a very good model.
- A good father should be supportive when children make the right decision
When I decided to get my master degree in the United States I had a long discussion with my dad, he was really happy that I made this decision and promise to give all the support I need to finish my master degree. He also spent lots of time thinking about what I should be aware of when applying for school and because this, I saved lots of time on doing research online and making mistakes. This is my dad, always think ahead before doing anything sorry and I learned how to plan ahead before doing anything.
- Action is always louder than words
My dad is always regulate himself strictly because as the most important person in my family, he wants to be a model so everyone could have a role model to follow with. For example, he always put things back after using it, clean up his personal stuff regularly, cleaning out home every weekend so we could have a comfortable living place . Everything he did a huge affection to my personality which makes my life refined and have rules.
- Never blame your children when they fail
My dad is a person who always plan ahead before he decided to do something and he wants me to do so because he thought having a good plan can save lots of time and money instead of do it quick but spend time on fixing it. But of course…nobody is perfect, I still faced some failures after I thought plan it well but my dad never blames me because of this because he wants me to learn from the failures.