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Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.

The father is the basis of the family along with the mother and their children. Only together we all make a happy family . So It is under the guidance of the father that we grow and learn from this world . So as a father it is your responsibility to teach your child and also learn from him. Never forget the rule of the thumb and so be a good father .


If married, stay married – this is what God wants and it is what children want from you. If you are divorced or separated, partner with your former spouse – always set aside your personal differences to keep the well being of the children first and foremost. Always view marriage as a three way partnership: picture you and your wife at each corner of the base of a triangle and God at the top. Now as you and your wife draw closer to God, he will be drawing the two of you closer together.


Kids need solid values to live by and they desire to have them as a guide. State of values: postmodern relativism – no standard of absolute truth despite the fact that the Bible is truth and in the Bible, Jesus says “I am the truth” (John 14:6). 80% or more of youth buy into this. Real world difference? These children are 2 times more likely to be angry with life, resentful, lack purpose, and steal, 3 times more likely to use drugs, and 6 times more likely to commit suicide.

Challenge as dads: child learns right and wrong from the father .The 4 facets to each person: physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual. As a dad, you should be concerned with their development in each area. Beware of building an intellectual mansion on spiritual quicksand. The child can go to best college but when first real crisis hits, come crashing down because of weak spiritual foundation. Commit personally to instill moral and spiritual values in your child . Pray for your kids and pray with your kids .

Forgiveness was emphasized by Jesus – see the parable of the prodigal son Luke 15. Consider whether you need to forgive or to seek forgiveness. If you suffer from a father wound, begin the healing process by forgiving yourself father. Seek forgiveness from your wife and/or children from a serious past wrong – go to them with a broken heart “Without forgiveness, life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.” Kill this cycle now, by asking for your child’s or your wife’s forgiveness.



You can make a really positive difference in this world through the positive fathering legacy you can leave .This will seriously impact the lives of not only your children, but your grandchildren and down through the generations as they reflect the values you have left them through your legacy. Children say they want four basic things in a fathering legacy value and faith, love and affection, good communication, a lifestyle worthy of emulation. Begin is establishing the legacy you want to leave NOW – you do not know how much time either you or your child has on this earth. Dad, invest your life in that which will last. Only two things are eternal: the Word of God and people, so invest in your children and you will be well rewarded when someday you look into the eyes of your Savior  and hear him say, “Well done good and faithful servant. I call many people to different tasks, but I called you to be a father and gave you these children and you raised them wonderfully.”
Write down the fathering legacy you want to leave right now – and then LIVE IT with all that you have for the rest of your fathering journey.

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Bill Belew

Daddy and Christian.

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