Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.
This will probably read like a rant. It’s not. But it might be.
Something like 70% of all blogs are written by mommies … who don’t have a clue. Or at least don’t have the experience they need to offer up advice.
Another mommy’s advice has gone ‘viral’ after she came to an amazing conclusion after watching her 4-year old do something.
Right or wrong this mother would do well to take the epiphany that she got from her 4-year old’s action and go back to work, the blender, the park or wherever duty calls and just sit on it. Better yet, throw it in the blender.
No mother of a 4-year old should feel they have the insight to offer up to other mommies AND daddies what they think is the best or worst thing they can do for their kids.
There is one big reason – the inexperienced mommy or daddy does NOT know how it’s all going to turn out.
“We should hover over our kids so that when they are older …”
“We should not hover over our kids so that when they are older … ”
Really? And they know this how? Based on their past?
And they know this great insight will work on their kid with a unique personality how?
Here’s what I think. Mommies and daddies should take really good notes for about 25 years on everything they did or didn’t do for their kids. Wait and see how things turn out. Then and only then should they speak up or out on what is best. Tell us what worked and didn’t work for them.
Until then, play with their kids, love their kids, empathize with their kids, lead their kids, be examples to their kids, provide for their kids … and leave the advice giving to people who have ‘been there done that.’
Talk to Bill and others about their experiences raising bi-cultural Japanese-American kids.