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Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.

Poor dads experience financial hardship and are unable to provide for their families and are often seen addicted to abusive substances such as drugs, alcohol and smoking.  They are often seen as incompetent by their children.


Poor dad

Poor dads are dads who have been deprived economically and those dads who are not able to give the right level of financial security or luxury; a legitimate expectation of the wife and the kids of a family.  These dads always seen running short of cash and usually find it difficult to make both ends meet.  These dads are unable to meet their social expectations, because of the lack of secure job, that would feed the needs of the members of the family or are seen spending too much instead of saving it for a secure future.  They are not good at planning ahead  for the future and they take one day at a time and due to this basic shift in approach they are unable to foresee the future and are therefore unable to accommodate requests from their family.

Money is really the foundation of any family to ensuring its stability and long term sustenance, and if that is neglected then all the other layers surrounding it fall apart and it is only a matter of time when everything collapses.

Financial security is really the pillar of the family and its pivotal for its long term continuity. Most of the tension in the family between members that is between the husband and the kids or the spouse arise out of money related reasons and the other factors such emotional bonding  between the couple can be made up and secured, if the basics are built on strong financial capital.

These dads in the family are therefore expected to make money and be the financial guarantee to the family but in most cases these father spend away all the cash and are in deep financial stress because of their lack of foresight or because of their addictions, dependencies or bad habits such as drinking, smoking or drugs  e.t.c.   The Casino based lifestyle in most cases is found to be the principle attribute which is why these families end up in deep debt and financial woes because these dads get hitched to bad habits and addiction as way of letting go of his shortcomings with life and dreams of becoming wealthy overnight and all this blows back that has a ripple effect on the future of the members of the family. These men might have also lost a fortune through investing in the stock market which is again a casino based betting system.

The children in these families are not able to have the money to spend lavishly and are often seen comparing themselves to their friends in their classrooms and are constantly yearning for a better life.  They see their friends spending time with their families on expensive holidays, purchasing new clothes, accessories  and they request these from their dads because the father is the person that they can ask such things in most cases and they end up being frustrated because their dad cannot provide to these demands from the children.  Many of these kids are unable to focus on their studies because of these factors created by their father.  They blame him for the lag in their scores and the flip side to this is that many of them work twice as hard so that they don’t end up like their fathers.  Many of these children also take an oath to make sure that they take this situation as a challenge differentiate themselves in their communities.

Talk to Bill and others about their experiences raising bi-cultural Japanese-American kids.

Bill Belew

Daddy and Christian.

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