Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.

This post shall all about the fighter cock dads who thrive on intimidation and bullying  and will also discuss the implications of such a scenario of having to contend with a fighter cock dad who is extremely, harsh and would pick up fights instantly and its social impact on children and members of the family.  Such families have undergo a constant zone of fear and bitterness  as these fighter cock dads take every opportunity to pounce on the kids and the spouse.  They also carry the same baggage and show off that rude attitude in front of their friends and extended family members.  These fighter cock dads make sure that the strictest possible control is maintained in the family and the kids are also involved and caught up in this miserable state of affairs.   The children also feel a sense of enslavement and part of this invisible prison as they are subject to an environment which does not encourage fairness in debate or open discussions.  The members of the family feel chocked in the sense that they feel restrictions and controls in various walks of life and because of this lack of freedom and a constant sense of fear they are unable to express their individuality in a natural way.

These fighter cock dads dad also create a code of conduct and create a rigid framework of rules of engagement with the members of the family and this can come across as intimidating to the spouse and the kids.  They are often mistrustful of their family members and repeatedly ask a lot of questions in order to create an situation of fear and control, therefor not allowing  members of the family to freely express themselves in a democratic manner.  Their style of management is therefore mostly authoritative and they expect a fair amount of submission and respect which is totally blind in the sense that it calls for total surrendering of the individuals without any chance of reasoning   They do not provide room to the family members in order to express themselves in a democratic way, their thinking gets constrained and their opinions get stifled when they exercise authority over family members.

These dads also in some cases resort to taking to abuse to make their family members toe their lines in case they express views that are contrary to those expressed by these dads.  There is a pattern of abuse of these dads which might result in cases of mistreatment of their family members and even informing the authorities about misconduct from their dad. These dads are often seen as abusing the power and privilege your position that comes with the marriage but they fail to realize that every member in the family is equal in ensuring the long term sustainability of the family and often pay a price for their conduct.

There could be many reasons behind such an deviant behavior which can be traced back to their early childhood life or upbringing, during which they might have been subjected to a similar treatment by their family members.  All of us are to a large extent conditioned by our system of beliefs, that is forced to us by our family we tend to be subjected to some degree of ideological and psychological brainwashing.  The general atmosphere in which we are brought may have conditioned us in a wrong way and typically this process takes shape in the early years of ours mental development and upbringing and becomes a part of their mental make up.  Many of these fathers are also are very abusive and sometimes they resort to physical violence towards the members of the family in extreme circumstances and like to use coercion in order to bring their family members towards submission.

Talk to Bill and others about their experiences raising bi-cultural Japanese-American kids.

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Bill Belew

Bill Belew

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