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Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.


Reading Letter

The Dallas Historical Society thinks it has found a copy of Lincoln’s Bixby Letter.

I didn’t know they had copies in the 1800’s and the widow Bixby was said to have destroyed the original.


What is the Bixby Letter?

The text –

Executive Mansion,
Washington, Nov. 21, 1864.

Dear Madam,

I have been shown in the files of the War Department a statement of the Adjutant-General of Massachusetts that you are the mother of five sons who have died gloriously on the field of battle.

I feel how weak and fruitless must be any word of mine which should attempt to beguile you from the grief of a loss so overwhelming. But I cannot refrain from tendering you the consolation that may be found in the thanks of the Republic they died to save.

I pray that our Heavenly Father may assuage the anguish of your bereavement, and leave you only the cherished memory of the loved and lost, and the solemn pride that must be yours to have laid so costly a sacrifice upon the altar of freedom.

Yours, very sincerely and respectfully,

A. Lincoln

Mrs. Lydia Bixby was a widow.

It was discovered that only (only?) two of her five sons, Charles and Oliver Bixby, died in battle.

The other sons – one deserted, one was discharged honorably and the third either deserted or died as a POW.

It shows to go you, nobody ever wins a war. Some people just lose more.

Let’s hope for no more wars, anywhere, ever. China, are you reading this?

See also:

Abraham Lincoln: Letter to Mrs. Bixby, 1864

New Light on the Bixby Letter

Letter to Mrs. Bixby

Talk to Bill and others about their experiences raising bi-cultural Japanese-American kids.

Bill Belew

Daddy and Christian.

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