Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.
Frankly human intelligence and wisdom is unique and unequal among individuals, so we are born unequal and so are our dads. Some of them are very learned and have experienced difficult situations and made it to the top the hard way. While on the flip side there are many dads who do not have the social skills and mental vigor to understand what it takes in order to raise a family. Lot of them from the latter segment seek the advice of their peers who have been there done that in order to learn and improvise and execute their suggestions.
These folks do not view this is a sign of weakness and lack of knowledge but feel that it is necessary to seek advice by reaching out to other dads who have been successful. Many of these dads also observe and deduce from the life of other dads and create their own success formula based on their intuition. That is good in the sense that they are at least letting go of their ego and trying to seek advice from their peer dads. Some of these dads who have been there done that, are very receptive to such requests and often help out!
Talk to Bill and others about their experiences raising bi-cultural Japanese-American kids.