Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.

Overbearing parents are smothering their children. It is believed that kids’ lives were being so tightly controlled by their parents that they’re unable to cope when they leave home for university.

After numerous researches, it is said that when children are young, mothers are often behind youngsters’ cosseting because their own careers struggle when they start a family. A lot of it is women who, because it is difficult to get on, subjugate their own ambition into their kids. That makes it harder when they get to university and realize they haven’t got a mother to help them with their homework, watching their every move.

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We’ve all done it. Now, I just can’t, so I don’t, and I think they’re probably better off as a result. Some say that while parents are obsessed with organizing activities for their offspring, they ignore what their children get up to online. They are living in digital oblivion. Dads know what their kids like and appreciate but they do not want to make that their life’s purpose. We worship this feminine motherhood thing and I don’t think our children have benefited actually.

They’re babied a lot…Good parenting isn’t just about making sure they come top in maths but all the difficult stuff too. If they don’t learn the limits from us, who will tell them?…This is what the dad and moms have to say.

Talk to Bill and others about their experiences raising bi-cultural Japanese-American kids.