Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.
This post will talk about the dads who find it extremely difficult to make both ends meet for their family financially and are deeply distressed dads over this condition and constantly are looking out for other avenues for meeting their monthly budgets and satisfy their families. These dads are the ones who have been stripped of their financial capacities in some form or the other and are therefore unable to give the right amount of luxury to the members of their families, which of course is a very basic expectation of the members of the family which usually include the kids, the spouse and the extended family. These fathers are always running short of cash and manage to meet both ends meet by cutting corners such as borrowing money from their friends and getting into a messy situation which could have a psychological impact on members of the family with an emotional impact as well in some cases.
They are unable to meet their financial obligations to the members of the family due to the lack of a good job that would provide adequate money to the family or these dads spend their hard yearned money instead of saving it for the near future, so that their kids are financially secure. These father are not good planners as they take things for granted and therefore live one day at a time instead of planning ahead of the game and due to this deviation in approach they are therefore unable to plan head for the future and run into lack of foresight. These fathers can also be in different situations such as losing a huge sum of their savings through investments in an failed bushiness or due to a personal lack of judgement in cash management due to which they suffer heavy loses and are therefore unable to recoup.
Money is really the foundation of any healthy family for its stability and well being and when that foundation becomes a soft spot then all the other factors surrounding this primary factor go for a toss. These dads suffer from such financial instability that is really the cornerstone and the bedrock of the family and its long term prosperity. Most of the feuds that arise among the family members, whether it may be between the husband and the spouse or the husband or the kids or between the kids and the spouse primarily arise out of financial insecurities. The other reasons include emotional cohesion between the husband and the spouse can be made up if the pillars and the core foundation is built on strong financial success, otherwise there are bound to be problems for the family.
These kids brought up in these families are therefore unable to afford the money that is required to spend and are seen constantly comparing themselves to other kids in their schools and are constantly yearning for a better life. When these kids see their friends going on expensive trips, purchasing fancy clothes, wrist watches, gadgets and stylish shoes, they start demanding these items from their fathers because the father is the person that can be asked of such necessities but finally end up being dejected because their dad cannot provide these specific needs of their kids. Most of the kids of such families make an oath to make sure that they don’t end up like their dads an epitome of disaster in life, who could not just be there for the family to be able to provide the right level of comfort to their families but then take this situation as a gift in order to do well.
Talk to Bill and others about their experiences raising bi-cultural Japanese-American kids.