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Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.

In school we learn that mistakes are bad, and we are punished for making them. Yet, if you look at the way humans are designed to learn, we learn by making mistakes. We learn to walk by falling down. If we never fell down, we would never walk. This is the reality of life and we cannot part ways with it. Winners are not afraid of losing. But losers are. Failure is part of the process of success. People who avoid failure also avoid  success.You’re only poor if you give up. The most important thing is that you did something. Most people only talk and dream of getting rich. You have done something.
If you’re the kind of person who has no guts, you just give up every time life pushes you. If you’re that kind of person, you’ll live all your life playing it safe, doing the right things, saving yourself for something that never happens. Then, you die a boring old man.
I like Texas and Texans. In Texas, everything is bigger. When Texans win, they win big. And when they lose, it’s spectacular.
If you really want to learn the attitude of how to handle risk, losing and failure, go to San Antonio and visit the Alamo. The Alamo is a great story of brave people who chose to fight, knowing there was no hope of success against overwhelming odds. They chose to die instead of surrendering. It’s an inspiring story worthy of study; nonetheless, it’s still a tragic military defeat. They got their butts kicked. A failure if you will. They lost. So how do Texans handle failure? They still shout, “Remember the Alamo!”
That’s why I like Texans so much. They took a great failure and turned it into a tourist destination that makes them millions.
Texans don’t bury their failures. They get inspired by them. They take their failures and turn them into rallying cries. Failure inspires Texans to become winners. But that formula is not just the formula for Texans. It is formula for all winners.”
It is great to welcome change than cling to the past. This is just me. I would appreciate what’s in store for me than continue to sulk about what’s gone. There is a new life ahead of us each day. Let’s live it in full throttle. Each day comes with a new learning, some risk, some adventure. The point is to embrace it with open arms.
It is often said that the  love of money is the root of all evil. This may be true for some and false for the others. Excess of anything may turn bad. However, a genuine hunger to earn and lead a successful life, per say, is not a bad dream/thought. The sources used to attain this should be watched. People should not be hurt in the process. As long as the path is watched, nothing shall turn evil.
On the contrary, the lack of money is the root of all evil. This is also believed because it’s said that the dearth of resources that turn out to be wants and desires of an individual make him resort to ruthless ways and means to attain it.
Emotions are what make us human. Make us real. The word ’emotion’ stands for energy in motion. Be truthful about your emotions, and use your mind and emotions in your favor, not against yourself. As I said, I wish I could say it was easy. It wasn’t, but it wasn’t hard either. But without a strong reason or purpose, anything in life is hard. It is said that the fear of public speaking is a fear greater than death for most people. According to psychiatrists, the fear of public speaking is caused by the fear of ostracism, the fear of standing out, the fear of criticism, the fear of ridicule, the fear of being an outcast. The fear of being different prevents most people from seeking new ways to solve their problems.

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Bill Belew

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