Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.
It can’t be denied that a dad goes through ups and downs in his life while dealing with a family per say. He needs a lot of courage and happiness and a lot of luck to deal with the day to day challenges, he encounters.
It is well known, that the birth of a child messes up a life. Accountability passes before pleasures and the baby bottle prior to entertainment and sex. But all these concessions are worth their weight in gold because nothing in the world can replace a burst of laughter from our children or (I love you dad). So who are those fathers of today.
Even though the woman seemed to adapted well to the hazards of pregnancy, she knows that she often felt lost and that her life was turned upside down. So imagine the one who accompanies the future mom, how he really feels… Powerless! Not in the literal sense of the word, but rather because he feels he does not always recognize her as the woman he has known. He is not only the witness to the physical changes, but he is also witnessing many marginal changes in her character…
Have a good time becomes extremely important. Although it’s true that it is often not easy to be a parent it is important to take the time to live all the moments that pass as being a great opportunity to learn more about ourselves and others. Take lots of pictures, later on in life they will be precious, believe me! The only way to freeze a good moment in time is with a good picture. Do some of you remember the television commercial break telling us: This is not a sleepless night, but a moment of quality, right after we would see a mother nursing her little baby in the middle of the night. All is in the way of approaching life. And as a father, you have beautiful opportunities to create relationships with your children. It is important not to neglect your importance in life. A father will validate his daughter by helping her to build trust and esteem. He will be a lighthouse for his little boy by giving him the tools to learn to respect and love himself and others. And above all, he will be present, attentive and respectful toward his children while guiding them with the best of his ability. Therefore, being a father today is to have the chance to see your children grow up and to support them in their development.
Here’s wishing best of luck, courage and happiness to all Dads!
Talk to Bill and others about their experiences raising bi-cultural Japanese-American kids.