Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.
Growing up with a dad that shares a special bond with you is truly special if you grew up with someone who understands you fully and respects you for what you are as a person. These dads are not judgemental, they allow you to be just yourselves without the need for any kind of improvement but their ability to understand what your true potential is a unique distinguishing feature that these dads share in terms for forging a special bond with their kids and family. It is very easy for someone to look at the negatives of a child or a spouse but then these dads that share a special bond with their families are not judgemental and are very encouraging. They motivate their kids and do not compare them with other children and treat them like as who they are without the model that is being set by the society that is geared towards efficiency and constant comparison.
The special bond that is forged between the dad and his family is really key to a family’s success and really is instrumental in creating a strong foundation on which the family’s future depends upon. Relationships are really crucial in bringing together a family on on roof and creating a cordial atmosphere on which these roots are built upon. In case any member goes out of line the special bond that you forge within your family is what brings things back on the table. Yes you can give people lots of luxury and comfort which every member in the family aspires to get but then human beings are social animals and the strings that really bind a family towards a common goal is what ultimately drives the family to steer clear of all the worries, disappointments despite all odds and uncertainties into a safe and clear position.
The father is really instrumental in this anchoring role that he must perform otherwise things could get out of hand pretty soon in the family and to put things into perspective and make things work like they are supposed to work the father has to really step and make sure all his family members are on the same page as he is. The special bond gets built over a period of several years and it does not happen in a day, so it is a very slow process of gaining and building trust within the family members and this requires you to make compromises and giving in certain things that matter and impact the family as a whole.
The goal of every father is therefore to forge this healthy bond between various members of the family and create hope and comfort with the members of the family, because this is really crucial in building a family and ensuring that the ground rules and the expectations are set before the ship starts to sail. The idea of a family is what brings people together, a sense of togetherness through good times and the bad, a sense of belonging where people don’t let each other down and stand up for the other when difficult situations arise and the family steers ahead through testing times and eventually because of this strong foundation that was seeded by the father the family is able to hold up together and comes out victorious in every possible circumstance.
The special bond and love that the father weaves and creates this nest on which the family is able to sustain, nurture and foster attitudes and personalities is what ultimately decides the future of a family and its well being over several decades.
Talk to Bill and others about their experiences raising bi-cultural Japanese-American kids.