Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.

Dads who lost their daughters

These dads have gone through a significant amount of stress in the part due to lose of their family members or the entire family in some cases.  Their traumatic experiences often times result in nightmares and unpleasant memories partly due to their past events and spend majority of the time worrying and pondering over their future. These dads are very insecure and feel a terrible sense of longing, having to endure such painful and bitter memories haunting them on daily basis.

They feel anxious unable to cope with the mental agony they endured during the past and are very cautious about their current belongings. They are often seeing indulging in alcohol and other depressants and become addicted to these habits as time progresses and are unable to cope with their present condition. They often seek solace in making friendships and are constantly looking to fill that vacuum left from their past life.  Some take rehabilitation and counselling and some resort to a unhealthy lifestyle to revive their present condition.

They also feel jealous of other happy families in some cases as it brings back happy memories from the past and it makes them feel insecure. They are often seen confiding to their friends and constantly seek advice from other people who have been through such traumatic times in their lives. They are very possessive about certain things and want to cling on to them and often are suspicious of any event as they feel things might cut loose and go out of control.

They are often times seen visiting the church or the temple and find comfort in religious devotion in many cases.  They are seen praying their gods and find solace in asking questions and wondering why it all happened.  Some of them want to move on with their lives and want to start afresh and make another beginning where as some are unable to do so and are caught up in the cobwebs of a cringing and a distasteful past.

Talk to Bill and others about their experiences raising bi-cultural Japanese-American kids.