Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.
Penniless dads are those fathers that have lost their fortune in some form or the other and are therefore unable to cope up with the hardships of life and are mentally and physically less confident than other dads in order to raise the kids in a financially secure environment. These dads are often distressed about the bitter history that haunts them and brings back bad memories of how they were not able to build a strong foundation for themselves and secure their future when it comes to education or knowledge that is the cornerstone and essential ingredients for success for any person living in this competitive era. These penniless dads are the ones that are cash strapped and are unable to give the right level of financial necessities or things that are desired by the members of the family and is a legitimate expectation of every member of the family. These dads are unable to provide the family with the required level of luxury and comfort which is a basic need of the spouse and the children of a family.
These dads are always cutting corners in order to make both ends meet and are constantly in a panic mode looking for help in order to support their family . They are always running short of money and usually reach out to their friends and extended family for help and resort to unethical practices in some cases such as cheating, fraud and deceiving other people in order to survive and make a living. Since these dads often times live on the edge so as to speak they are picked up by the law enforcement or the police for deviating from the agreed upon principles of law and ethics and therefore end being in prison or getting into legal troubles; the burden of which once again falls upon the family members who have to come for rescue or bail them out. Some of these penniless dads are out of control and also engage in habits involving addictive and abusive substances which are difficult to control and handle.
These penniless dads are therefore unable to meet their obligations towards the family members because of the lack of a secure and permanent job or a position that would satisfy the basic needs of the family or are seen spending a lot of their money in alcohol, gambling or drugs in some cases instead of saving up for the future and be the provider so as to speak. These fathers are not good at planning at all and they take life as it comes and are not thinking ahead into the future and understand what the future holds for them and what they need to do in order to secure and create a bright future and therefore there is a flaw in their fundamental approach to life which is the primary source of conflict. Other reasons for them getting to a state which we discussed above may be that they may lost a huge sum of money and fortune through unsuccessful investments in a failing venture or a business plan or a it might also be due personal lack of understanding of ways to manage your money due to which they suffer monetary set backs and losses and are therefore unable to cope the burden of raising a family. These dads also engage in substance abuse in certain cases and engage in fights and quarrels with the members of the family which might in some cases turn physical and abusive and might require intervention from law enforcement agencies or the relatives to put out the fight.
Talk to Bill and others about their experiences raising bi-cultural Japanese-American kids.