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Bill Belew has raised 2 bi-cultural kids, now 34 and 30. And he and his wife are now parenting a 3rd, Mia, who is 8.

Divorced dads are those that are not able to cope with what life has to offer them and are under a constant sense of social pressure in order to get along with the others in the society and are on the lookout for finding their soul mate. These dads might have been divorced for a variety of reasons which might not able to get along with their spouse because of a lack of compatibility or their wife might have been slightly unstable mentally, which could have led to the divorce.

Divorced dads form a significant number in the population in the west for the family structure is collapsing and these dads are often found looking around for partners and are trying to manage their financial resources in order to raise their children in a financially secure environment. These guys register into dating websites and are constantly on the prowl for the perfect soul mate who would change their life forever and take away all that misery that was left behind.

These divorced dads also forge a special bond with their children because they get to spend a lot of time with their kids. As their kids grow up with these divorced dads during most of their early stages they get a lot of their time during this crucial period of mental maturity and childhood development. Their children get emotionally attached to these divorced fathers as there is a deep void left in the family because of the absence of the mother in who has probably said goodbye to them right from the outset and has stepped out of the family. The father therefore has a huge responsibility in order to to fill that vacuum in their lives because of which an unconditional love and attachment develops between the child and the father.  Single fathers are usually the ones who really pay attention to the smallest needs and spend a majority of their time taking care of the family and they play multiple roles of that of a father, mother and the teacher for their children and are constantly look after their children and teach their kids to look after their younger siblings and therefore form a very coz tightly knit relationship within the family so that all the members are provided the right amount of knowledge, time and affection.

These divorced dads have to also manage their time and resources appropriately  and impartially between their family members as they must ensure that there is not any bias and impartiality while dealing with their children because these dads have plenty of things to take care of and are generally are constantly seen juggling things and running around in order to make both ends meet and balancing their lives between their professional and their personal lives which are essential  for every human being.  We must not forget that these dads have their own personal needs which have to be fulfilled and they have to strike the right appropriate balance in order to satisfy their own personal needs and ensure that their kids do not feel isolated and are in the dark without proper attention and love, so these dads pay lot of attention to these details and need to exercise a lot of care in the way that they balance out these small things, which might be quite a challenge for many dads.  These divorced dads are also subject to a certain degree of social stigma in the society as they are unwelcome in their  circle of friends as they don’t have a partner which might be a point of concern for this divorced dads.

Talk to Bill and others about their experiences raising bi-cultural Japanese-American kids.

Bill Belew

Daddy and Christian.

One Comment

  • rod says:

    I think you make very good points. Indeed, you explain why many dad’s (and moms) hang in there for the family’s sake instead of getting divorced.

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